Springtime, a season soon approaching where love is in the air. You love to be specific, but is it maybe too young? The Article, Say Yes. What Are You Waiting For? discuss how the "suitable" age for marriage has increased and how younger couples are just as likely, possibly more, to work out in the long run. But I, personally, have my own fears about young marriages. My parents married at around 20. High-school sweethearts, destined to be with each other... or so they thought. In my family alone I've seen a handful of divorces because of rushed marriages. Rushed because in the moment they felt a whole swirl of emotions that made it seem like they were, "the one", when in reality they were in the far too dangerous, "puppy dog" phase. Now don't think I'm the "Scrooge" of young marriages, I'm all for it, after a certain amount of time. If you begin dating in high school say, Jr year, I push for that couple to wait until after college. 6 years. I know that seems like a long time, and many ask, "If you know now? Why wait?". Well if I know now what will six years do? If thought of waiting six years puts a damper on your feelings towards your significant other, then how true and passionate are those feelings? I've always been taught that if you do not love yourself, know yourself, accept yourself, then how can it be expected that you do those things with your spouse? This is why I do not think young marriages (ages 18- around maybe 25) are always a good idea. We are naturally fickle people who get caught up and do things before the reality sets in that they are not the people you actually want to be with. Another issue, brought up by my lovely teacher who assigned this surprise blog, is the couple sex life, or lack there of up until marriage. I won't touch on it much because I can't vouch for every young couple out there, but i will say it is possible. Hard, but very possible. I know, personally at least 7 couple who dated for a handful of years and waited until marriage. I understand it is difficult, especially if that is who are meant to be with and who want to be connected with them on that level, but i don't think it is an argument for young marriages. I don't think its a reason people should use to move up the wedding date, because they just can't wait anymore. How romantic, you want to move up the date to this spring instead of next because you just can't wait another year to screw. True love right there. Again, don't think I am against younger marriages. I love them, if they are confident in who they are, are at a good place and if they really found someone to spend the rest of their lives with, not just someone who makes you laugh sometimes and is chill to hang out with. I will never judge a young couple for making that next step in their relationship. I may think, "oh their a little young" but if they are happy, truly (not just momentary) happy, then they should get married. If that's what they want. But if its not something they want, I want, you want. If you've had doubts, serious one not just the ones you have after a fight. Then listen to yourself. If you're dating through high-school, through college, and you are not 1000% sure they are who God intended for you, don't get married just because its the next step. But if your young, and truly in love, then be together. Just make sure its for love, real love.
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